I have come to believe that listening is a lost art. People
have a hard time listening to others, especially in their time of need. It is always
interesting when you have an issue that you are facing and someone always has
had something similar that has happened. Then they proceed to tell you their
story completely disregarding what you were trying to say. Many times what they
had to say had nothing to do with what you were going through.
I am sure most of us can relate to this, if you can’t relate
to this, well, maybe you’re the one doing too much talking because everyone is
listening to you. Anyway, Solomon wrote the words in Proverbs for a reason.
Listening gives you time to gain an understanding of others, gain wisdom, and
respond to their needs with the right words (which may include a story from
your personal life, but not always). When we stop listening and interrupt to get
our own thoughts in we devalue the person speaking. Listening is an important
part of who we are as humans. We long to have people listen to us and people
long to have us listen to them. The trick is, knowing when to listen and when
to speak.
Solomon continues in Proverbs 18 verse 15 “The mind of the
prudent acquires knowledge, and the ear of the wise seeks knowledge” (NASV) or,
as Eugene Peterson puts it in The Message
“Wise men and women are always learning, always listening for fresh insights.”
When we speak too soon we may be missing something that might teach. Don’t
allow your own story to be more important than someone else’s. If you aren’t
willing to take the time to listen, don’t take the time to pretend like you’re
interested.
We all need to vent, share a story, or talk about an issue
we might be having, but we also need to be prepared to listen to people who
have the same need. It takes wisdom to know when to listen and know when to
speak and not all of us have that wisdom. However, it can be obtained by all,
if we take the time to try. Sometimes, it may require us to just listen and not
speak at all, but that takes someone like Jesus to know when that is supposed
to happen.
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