“not by works, so that
no one can boast. For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do
good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”- Ephesians 2: 9-10
A trending topic on twitter today is #FreshmanAdvice. It is
interesting to see what students are recommending to their peers that are
entering into the first tumultuous year of high school. There are pictures of
fish swallowing other fish in reference to kissing in hallways , screen
captures or videos of the most accurate depiction of high school activity “High
School Musical” (which I have seen and it is scary), but sadly there are more
references to sexual activity or avoiding pregnancy than anything else. This is
what is being shared for “freshman advice.”
I am not naïve to the fact that most of this activity is
occurring at younger ages, but it is sad that this is a key to “surviving” high
school. Is this how our students should be expected to enter into the most
formidable time of their life? Is this the image of high school our students
should embrace? I have a hard time believing this is so.
Seeing a young woman tweet “That Senior boy you think is
cute, doesn’t like you. He only wants to see what your mouth can do
#FreshmanAdvice” or a young man tweet “Take
a nude pic, send it, become popular, get depressed, commit suicide, become
famous #FreshmanAdvice” is disheartening. We live in a day and age where
posting whatever you think or feel is a necessity to being recognized. We are
experiencing an over-sexualized culture that, for many youth, is the way they
have defined who they are. This is a painful reality!
As adults, parents, youth workers, or a caring community
member, we each have a role to play in establishing a healthy self-image in our
youth. This is essential in our young women! Our young women should not see
their bodies as tools for success or popularity. They should not buy into the
image portrayed on television that a healthy high school life includes sex,
drugs, and giving the finger to authority. We must empower our young women to know
who they are as beautifully and wonderfully made children of God, made for so
much more! Their identity is not defined by popularity, but by character. Their
character and integrity establishes their future and influence, which means
they need to be pushed to aim higher than social “norms.”
Our young men need to know that women are made for more than
our sexual wants. They need to know the same about who they are as young women
do. They are made to do so much more and their character and integrity establishes
their identity. They are not identified by their muscles, their clothes, their
fighting skills, or how many young women they “conquer”. On the contrary, they
are identified by the way they lift up others, encourage change, and empower
the women around them.
High School is a time of development. Young people develop
their self-esteem, self-image, and life direction during this time. They learn
how to live and work together and develop bonds that can last a lifetime. We
need to encourage and uplift them in order to help them see high school is a
time of life-learning and discovering their potential to influence change in this
world.
Young people “Trust your heart. Know you are beautifully and
wonderfully made. You are children of God empowered to be more and do more than
the world tells you. #FreshmanAdvice!”
Question: With the
start of school just around the corner, are you speaking to your student about
sexual pressure at school or in society? If you can, please share some ideas of
how to guide the conversation for others.
Or
If you are a young person, what do you think about this topic? Is it as bad as it seems?
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